Weddings for Everyone
As an officiant, I do not discriminate on the basis of race, religion, ethnic or national origin, age, disability, gender identity or expression, sex or sexual orientation. I welcome you, as you are - full stop. If, as a couple, you love each other and want to publicly and legally commit to a life together, I'm here for that and for you! I come to this with no agenda other than to make your ceremony what you want it to be and am working always to grow my understanding of the intersecting identities we all bring to the table - and in turn, to have the tools to best work with, be with, and support you and yours in a cared for way.
Humanist weddings are non-religious but wholeheartedly welcome interfaith couples (or couples of one faith who want a non-religious service) and can include rituals, readings, cultural ceremonies, or traditions of your choosing. As your wedding officiant, I will work with you to build a ceremony that best reflects your love and your intentions for your wedding day. Whether it's a simple signing with two witnesses or an over the top spectacle with all of your extended family, I can help you create a ceremony that meets your collective wishes.
Fees and Other Details
My rates are on a sliding scale, based on:
- the size of your event
- the type and complexity of the ceremony
- the location
- the date
If you are interested in knowing more, send me a message. Include the approximate day, time, and location of your wedding (if you know it), if it's indoors or outdoors (in these pandemic times), and number of guests you are expecting. I’ll send you a fee estimate and more about me and my process, and if interested, we will plan a meeting where we can talk further, get to know each other a bit more, and find answers for any pending questions.
Because of the way I write my ceremonies, I don't really have a ceremony template but will provide you with a basic ceremony flow to give a general idea of the building blocks I will use as a starting point for your ceremony. Upon request, I'm also happy to provide a writing sample to give a sense of my approach, noting that each personalized ceremony is made for you and so any examples are simply that.
In the event that I'm unavailable for your date, I will happily help direct you to other potential officiants to contact.
Planning Your Ceremony
As your wedding officiant, my role is:
- to walk and talk you through the paperwork and legalities
- to lead you in performing the necessary language from the Marriage Act and submit the legal documents to the province
- to offer an anchor as you plan your wedding and be a guide as you bring your ceremony to life
Some people know exactly what they want for their weddings. Others may feel bound by what they think a wedding should be. If we decide to work together, you'll have my assistance in unravelling what you do and don't want, and brainstorming a ceremony that is wholly representative of you. We'll meet in person to go through all the details and I'll also walk you through some more personal questions, so that I can get to know you as individuals and as a couple (and so you can get to know me in turn). Once I have a sense of who you are and what you're looking for, I'll draft a ceremony and together we will fine tune it till it feels just right.
The Big Day
There is something intangible about the feeling of a wedding - it's joyful, emotional, and it exists very much in the present moment. For many, it goes by in a flash. And what we end up remembering is not so much what the couple wore but the way their faces shone; not the details of the venue but the way two new families joined in ecstatic celebration on the dance floor. It's the love which radiates between two people and the effect it has as it echoes out, touching each and every one gathered around them.
As your wedding officiant, my best advice to you is to make your wedding what you want it to be. It can be a quick and dirty elopement, a big top circus, or a small ceremony with your nearest and dearests at the pub. Whatever your two hearts desire is what I will help you fulfill. Contact me to get started.
Photo Credits (Top to Bottom):
Molly Johnson, Jacklyn Barber, Molly Johnson, Carl Hansen